These days, going out to have fun is almost a must. As humans, there is always a time when we need to relax, unwind and spend time with friends drinking and sharing a meal at the various eating and drinking places in our towns.
Now there is this trend which we must talk about. For whatever reason, we have a bunch of females who feel that being female is enough for them to go around and warrant them sponsorship in these drinking and eating places. These ones will arrive at a drinking place and buy themselves a single drink, looking pretty and smile at any man that looks promising and can afford to buy them a drink.
Well, stories have been shared how ladies will end up being ‘sponsored’ with drinks by these ‘loaded’ men who in turn may in most cases expect the ladies to give them company during the outing and probably afterwards.
This is what I want to talk about. Most girls enjoy the sponsorship of the drinks, accept the food being bought for them by men they hardly know and in the end when the men start asking for company or other forms of kindness, they will quickly say: “I have a boyfriend”. Now I have a problem with this faulty way of living our lives. If you knew that you have a boyfriend, why did you not go out with him? Why did you not get money either from the boyfriend or from your own savings to spoil yourself during the outing. So, you mean to tell me that it is ok for you to meet random men and they should just buy you food and drinks and afterwards you remember that you have a boyfriend? And what type of boyfriend will accept such kind of behaviour from his girl?
Yes, women have been raped and even killed during such outings. It is all wrong and everyone found doing this to women must be punished. But as women, we must be responsible for our welfare and not put ourselves in situations that can compromise our lives and our safety.
If a woman comfortably goes around accepting expensive alcoholic beverages from men you don’t know, she does not care about her safety. What if those men perceive your acceptance of those drinks as a way of saying yes I can sleep with you?
If they start demanding more from you what will you do? Yes, you do not force them to buy the drinks and food, but the vibe in these places is completely not normal such that as a woman, I advise everyone to only drink something they bought with their own money and in that case no one will feel a sense of entitlement towards you.
Finally, out of respect for your boyfriend, can you please stop this trend of going around in drinking places without money and expecting random men to sponsor you please? The ‘I have a boyfriend’ sentence sounds ridiculous coming from a woman who finds herself at drinking places alone and with no money. Yes you have a boyfriend, but where is he when you need him the most? Get a life!
